Talking To Your Subconscious Mind Before Bed

talking to your subconscious mind before bed

Talking to your subconscious mind before bed is a very powerful technique for ‘programming’ and instructing your subconscious mind.

When we are kids our subconscious minds are wide open.

We receive suggestions easily and form beliefs freely.

As we get older we become much more close minded. We tend to get stuck on what we already know.

The subconscious mind can be full of ideas and beliefs that no longer serve us and that got formed at a time in our lives where we did not have any conscious awareness.

The window of time just before you fall asleep is a magical time of the day.

It is a time when you are between worlds – you are hovering between the conscious (awake) and the subconscious (asleep) realms.

This makes it the ideal time to talk to the subconscious mind.

The simple principle is that what you think about expands. The thoughts you choose to think consciously act as instructions to the subconscious mind.

Your conscious thoughts are taken as instructions and the subconscious immediately ‘goes to work’ to bring you more of what aligns with these ‘instructions’.

The Power Of Talking To Your Subconscious Mind

When you are talking to yourself, you are really talking to your subconscious mind. We are all engaged in self talk all the time.

Most people however are in a habit of feeding their subconscious mind with everything they don’t want.

Your subconscious mind is your loyal servant.

It is there to serve you, protect you and help you in ways you can never even begin to imagine. When we talk about the power of the mind, we are really talking about the power of the subconscious mind.

Your conscious mind is very limited.

It requires conscious effort and is limited by space and time.

Your subconscious transcends all that. It is that part of your mind that is connected to the Divine. It is that part of your mind that allows you to interact with infinite intelligence.

Manifesting and invoking the law of attraction rarely produces any results when your attempts are grounded in your conscious mind alone.

The Best Times To Talk To Your Subconscious Mind

Talking to your subconscious mind before bed and/or the instant you wake up are generally considered the best times to do so.


During sleep time your conscious mind becomes subdued. It fades into the background and rests. The subconscious takes over.

The precious minutes before sleep and upon awakening are the times when we can consciously impress ideas on the subconscious because it is still very dominant and the conscious mind has not yet had a chance to start running its daily program and routines.

The main benefits of talking to your subconscious mind before bed or as soon as you wake up is…

→ You avoid the default thoughts

Most people go to bed and start replaying the events of the day – especially when things went wrong.

You got cut off in traffic and in your mind you are still yelling at that crazy driver. Your colleague criticized you and you are still berating them hours later.

We are all subject to these default thoughts if we do not consciously take over the the reins. When you deliberately start talking to your subconscious mind you start taking charge of what you create and attract into your life.

You start to eliminate these idle and useless default thoughts that do nothing but attract more of what you don’t want.

→ You eliminate many fears and worries

Apart from these default thoughts that replay our day’s most significant events are our thoughts of fear and worry.

At any given point in your life, you have many things to fear and worry about. Your health, your finances, your job, your kids, you spouse, your safety, your security…the list goes on and on.

These types of thoughts tend to surface when you put your head on the pillow. When you stop being busy, these fears and worries tend to surface.

Putting yourself to sleep by entertaining these thoughts are just about the most destructive thing you can do in your life.

Remember, what you think about expands and focusing on your fears and worries act as an instruction to your subconscious mind saying ‘more of this please’.

→ You create a powerful positive routine

By far the most useful thing I have learned to do is to create this routine when you go top bed at night. I actually value those minutes before sleep immensely because they are so valuable.

These are the precious few minutes of the day where you can consciously create your life and really instruct your inner mind what it is that you really want to attract and manifest.

When you get into the habit of doing this every night you create a powerful routine that over time starts to have a huge impact on your life.

Not only because it eliminates the negative thoughts that most people entertain before bedtime but because the subconscious is so much more open to suggestion during this time.

→ You sleep much better

Thoughts of fear and worry can leave you tossing and turning all night long. This is partly because you are really creating your own nightmares – envisioning the worst possible outcomes for yourself.

Talking to your subconscious mind before bed and focusing on what it is that you really DO want, what is beautiful and what you want to expand in your life rarely leads to a bad night’s sleep.

In fact, doing this for just a few nights you will start to notice a significant improvement in your quality and quantity of sleep.

Remember, during sleep your subconscious mind takes over and is in complete control.

→ You wake up energized and enthusiastic

Putting yourself to sleep with thoughts of fear and anxiety will invariably lead you to waking up with fear and worry.

Most people wake up with an instant jolt of panic.

When your subconscious had 6 to 8 hours of simmering over your best life, over what you really want and what you know will bring you joy then you wake up still filled with those ideas and feelings.

→ You tap into the very power that creates all of your life experience

The law of attraction talks a lot about the power of thought, but much of that power lies in your subconscious thoughts.

Most people try so hard to focus their conscious minds on what they want and try and invoke the law of attraction that way.

It never works.

It’s not impossible but the conscious mind is not designed to dream, to imagine and to ultimately create.

How To Talk To Your Subconscious Mind Before Bed Time

There are many theories and ideas about how to best communicate with the subconscious mind. To be honest, there’s just way too much ‘trickery’ around this subject in the so-called self help space.

With all these audio programs and techniques for ‘reprogramming’ the subconscious mind it is easy to get confused and even misdirected.

Under hypnosis, your mind can do some truly amazing things.

When the conscious mind gets out of the way, we get a glimpse of just how powerful the mind really is.

One of my favourite ‘subconscious tricksters’ (and I say that with a lot of respect) is Darren Brown. He has done numerous programs where he uses his mastery and understanding of the subconscious to do truly amazing things.

One example that I really love is when he taught a woman how to play piano without her ever touching a piano. It was all done through suggestions to the subconscious mind.

Which leads me to the point I am trying to make…

Talking to the subconscious mind is not so much something that you need to learn how to do. It is more a case of something you need to become aware of doing.

You are already talking to your subconscious all the time. Your self talk, the images you entertain, your day dreaming, your fears, your worries…all these are really just a way of communicating to the subconscious.

By becoming aware and becoming deliberate you can take charge and by talking to your subconscious mind before bed time allows you to use that window of time where the subconscious is very open to suggestion.

7 Powerful Strategies For Talking To Your Subconscious Mind

1. I Am So Grateful For…

If you are looking for a very simple way to ‘put yourself to sleep’ in a powerful and positive frame of mind then all you really need to do is to start focusing on what you are grateful for.

As soon as you switch off the light and your head hits the pillow, say to yourself: “I am so thankful and grateful for…”

Your mind will be compelled to shift to things you are grateful for.

I’ve written extensively about the power of grateful thoughts and the energy they have. When you think about the fact that your thoughts expand then being grateful for what you have has to also expand.

That is who you talk to your subconscious mind and ‘ask’ for more of what you already love in your life.

There’s also nothing stopping you from being grateful for what you have not manifested yet. In fact, being grateful in advance is one of the main strategies that Dr. Joseph Murphy teaches in The Power of your Subconscious Mind.

2. The Conversation Technique

This is a strategy that borders on the ‘weird’ and for some it might sound too far fetched. Its been used by various artists, authors and scientists over the decades.

It works really well if you need an answer to a pressing question or need to solve a difficult problem.

Since your subconscious mind is connected to infinite intelligence it is connected to all the knowledge and wisdom that ever was or ever will be.

Talking to your subconscious mind before bed while you are in that drowsy state and asking it questions will invariably read to answers.

You can also pretend that you are sitting down with Albert Einstein or Pablo Picasso or Charles Darwin and you can have a full on conversation with them.

Ask your questions and pay attention to their answers.

3. Visualizing an End Result

The next 3 techniques are some of the most powerful ones because they are the ones that I have personally seen amazing results from.

Visualizing the end result is about fixing an image or a ‘movie’ of something specific you want to achieve.

It can be putting the key into your dream car, checking your bank balance to see a specific number or playing out the scene where your dream partner puts a ring on your finger.

Fixing your attention on one specific scene and replaying it over and over again every night as you doze off to sleep is by far one of the most powerful ways to manifest what you desire.

4. The Imaginal Act

The imaginal act is something that comes from the teachings of Neville Goddard. It’s similar to visualizing an end result but the idea is to ‘rehearse’ a specific act.

One technique is to get yourself a hundred dollar bill. Study that bill, smell it, feel it, hold it. Then close your eyes and try and recall as much of the detail as possible.

As you fall asleep at night, practice counting out 10, 20 or 100 of these bills. Go through all the motions in your mind.

It’s about performing the act in your mind.

This technique works incredibly well for sport or any physical skill you want to learn or master.

5. Looking Back

I love this. It also comes from Neville Goddard. The technique is that you lay yourself to bed. Bring your awareness to this exact moment in time.

Then, project yourself into a space and time where you already have what you want to manifest.

Now, from that space, look back at the ‘old you’ laying there in bed imaging you will have what you now how.

This is a very powerful psychological ‘trick’ and one that makes visualization quite easy and very exciting.

6. The Q and A Technique

If you are facing a difficult problem or are at a crossroad and need guidance then you can simply turn over the problem to your subconscious mind prior to sleep.

The idea is that you do not try and think of answers or solutions.

You simply focus on the question and ask your subconscious as you would ask someone who you KNEW had the answer.

Keep asking the question over and over again as you drift off to sleep.

When you wake up, pay attention! Pay attention to those first thoughts and ideas that come to you. The answer will come.

7. Mantras

A mantra is simply a word or phrase that you repeat over and over again. The words of the mantra itself is not as important as the repetition of the mantra is.

Dr, Joseph Murphy suggests that you ‘lull yourself to sleep’ by repeating the words ‘joy, wealth, success’.

Since your conscious mind can not focus on more than one thought at a time, this mantra ‘forces’ your mind to focus and think on the words you are repeating.

You can also use mantras like ‘thank you’ or ‘love, peace, joy’ – whatever makes you feel good and whatever keeps your thoughts and energy away from those default thoughts that are almost always negative.


With a passion for spirituality, self discovery, and understanding this life, Neod spends his time musing about what is, what could be and what might come about. After writing for 20 years he's still growing, learning, exploring and sharing with love, joy and compassion.

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