Learning how to remove negative energy from my husband was surprising and challenging. It involves much more changing of myself, my own attitudes, thoughts, emotions and what I bring to the relationship.
Coexisting with a negative spouse can take a toll on your marriage as well as your own mental health.
If talking to your husband about his negative attitude and what he can do to fix it hasn’t yielded any results so far, you can give him another shot by trying some of the solutions listed below!
Most negative people can make communication harder than it ever has to be and even shift the blame on you for their negativity.
However, if you still love your husband and he’s not hurting you in any way, except for acting like a jerk sometimes, apply some of the solutions below and see if you can help save your marriage.
- You are never responsible for another person’s actions
- Never tolerate any form of physical or emotional abuse
- We all do the best we can with what we know
- Negativity is a ‘trained’ mindset and not a personality trait
- Negative energy in a relationship affects everyone in that relationship
- Blaming someone else has never helped anyone
- You can change a relationship by only changing yourself (no need to change someone else)
- Negative energy can ‘cling’ to someone from childhood experiences
What Causes Negative Energy in A House?
You can’t banish negative energy if you don’t know where it’s coming from. Check out the next possible sources of negative energy in homes and see if you recognize any of them in yours.
Once you identify the source, you can take adequate actions.
1. Negative Individuals
You and your family might be experiencing negative energy because of other people who enter your home filled with negativity. Some researchers believe that humans can pick up on sadness, anger, and other negative emotions that others project.
Now that you know this information, you should be more mindful of who’s entering your home. I’m not saying that you should completely abandon negative friends, siblings, relatives, neighbors, etc. Just keep your distance and meet outside your home.
You can also offer your help if you think they’re going through something. However, if they’re just negative by nature, I would suggest that you take care of yourself and your family first and prevent negativity from destroying your home.
2. Negative Environments
Some places feel pleasant and inviting, while others make you feel uncomfortable and uneasy. If you hate visiting certain places with your spouse because they remind you of negative events, simply avoid them because they can fill you with negativity.
Physical details of your surroundings can also impact your mood.
Clutter, for instance, can cause stress in some people and even disrupt their sleep. So, pay attention to your surroundings and eliminate anything that could cause negativity.
3. Negative Self-Image
Seeing yourself in a negative light and having a negative opinion about yourself can harm your own mental health as well as the mental health of your loved ones.
Negative self-talk is also very harmful. It’s the flow of thoughts you don’t translate into words. They can make you feel depressed and more susceptible to different diseases. It’s believed that positive thinkers live longer.
However, being positive doesn’t mean that you ignore issues. Positivity can help you find solutions a lot faster, while negativity can only make matters worse and make you feel depressed.
Are You A Negative Person?
If you always find the bad in every good situation, you’re probably a chronically negative person, and your negativity could influence the mood of your husband, children, or even pets. However, don’t worry! You can still do something about it if you’re open to the idea.
How to Change Your Negative Mindset
If you’re willing to work on yourself and change your negative thinking pattern, give the following tips a try and watch your life transform right before your eyes.
- Avoid negative self-talk.
- Eat healthier foods and exercise.
- Forgive yourself for your mistakes.
- Forgive your partner for their mistakes.
- Do something that makes you happy and filled with positive energy.
- Get enough sleep and practice self-care.
- Be open-minded and grateful for life.
- Surround yourself with positive people.
- Avoid negative people as much as possible.
- Recite positive affirmations.
- Seek professional help.
How to Help Your Negative Husband
If your husband is the one being negative, you have to remember that it’s not your job to act as their therapist. However, you can still do certain things that will help your husband indirectly and improve your relationship.
- Establish healthy boundaries.
- Don’t take the negativity personally.
- Spend time with positive couples and relatives.
- If your spouse rejects your help, don’t overreact and turn your back immediately.
- Invite your spouse to do fun activities with you at least once a week.
- Encourage your spouse to try new things.
- See a marriage counselor.
In A Nutshell
No marriage is perfect and you can’t be positive all the time. However, if you establish healthy boundaries, talk openly with your spouse about your issues, and counteract any negativity you experience together, you can make your marriage work.
How to Clear Negative Energy From My Husband?
Dealing with a negative spouse can be very challenging and overwhelming. What I want you to understand before I dive into the few ways you can remove negativity from your husband is that your husband’s behavior is not your fault.
If you’ve done nothing wrong and you’re as positive as a normal person can be, but your spouse seems to be the total opposite of you and even mocks your positivity, he’s likely going through something. Maybe he’s overthinking his past decisions or life, in general.
Whatever the reason is, you must remain positive and protect yourself from his negativity. Otherwise, you’re both going to be negative and eventually, ruin your marriage. If you feel good, you might have a chance at making your spouse feel good again.
I’m sure you can agree with me that marriage isn’t always sunshine and rainbows. And with kids in the picture, you can easily lose yourself. The same goes for your husband.
The consequences of being lost in life include negativity. Now, let’s learn how to banish that negativity in your husband and improve his bad mood.
You Can’t Control His Thoughts and Actions, But You Can Change Yours
You just can’t change how your spouse thinks, feels, or communicates, but you can change how you react to their negativity. It will be quite difficult to talk to your spouse at first, but it will become easier with time.
As you change how you communicate, they may surprise you with less negative energy. Start by not taking his negative comments, observations, and criticism personally.
Note that most negative people interact with other people similarly, but the moment you show your spouse that change is possible, they might consider changing as well.
Talk to Your Spouse Openly, Seek to Understand, and Offer Your Help
When someone becomes negative all of a sudden, it’s not because they just woke up one day and decided they’re going to be a pain in the butt. There’s probably something bothering your spouse. So, talk openly, listen to what he has to say, and show love and support.
Maybe your husband is feeling a deep sense of fear which is the cause of his negative energy. Some of the most common fears in people include fear of being unlovable, fear of disrespect, fear of financial instability, fear of different dangers in the world, and fear of death.
He’s unable to see his negative approach to his issue, so he will probably keep on blaming other people, external circumstances, and events for why he feels the way he does. Trying to change his viewpoint can be draining, so don’t even consider it. Just listen and offer your help.
Practice Compassion
No one wants to feel miserable and negative, including your husband. So, take a deep breath, place yourself in his shoes, and try imagining being in his mind with negative emotions and thoughts arising without a break. This can help you understand how your spouse feels.
Practice compassion and ask him what he means every time he shares a negative comment or opinion with you.
However, don’t respond because this can increase his bad energy if he feels you’re trying to change his opinion or him, in general.
Break The Cycle of Negative Energies
Instead of blaming your husband for passing their negativity onto you, show him you’re in charge of your own destiny.
Fill yourself with positive energy and protect your own energy at any cost.
Pursue your dreams, take risks, build positive relationships, and have fun. This will show your husband that anyone can be in charge of their life, and he might follow in your steps.
Seek Professional Help
There’s no shame in the mental game! If none of the methods work and you feel drained, ask your husband to talk to a professional.
If he’s okay with you being in the room, you can attend therapy together and support each other throughout the whole process.
A Spiritual Approach To Clearing Negative Energy
While this does not conform to everyone’s belief systems, there is an increasing trend in using some of these more spiritual methods for balancing energy.
It may be a big ask to get your negative hubby to buy into these but many of them do not require his direct involvement.
Getting him on-boartd over time will certainly pay huge dividents.
The basic premise is that if you create a positive energy within yourself and within your home then his negative energy simply can not survive or thrive in your presence.
Its like switching on a light in a dark room. Here are some ideas for removing negative energy:
- Mindfulness Meditation
Meditation is one of the most powerful ways to connect with your Higher Self. When you go beyond your ego’s demands you make conscious contact with the Divine side of who you really are. Negativity dissapates. - Smudging
Smudging is an ancient spiritual practice of burning dried herbs. The intense smells are known to affect energy in and around us. Burnsing sage is the most popular but other herbs like sandalwood and mugwort is equally effective. - Salt Water Baths
A salt water bath is both invogorating and known for cleansing negative energy from the body. - Essential Oils
Diffusing esential oils does more than just provide a pleasant aroma. They can sinatly chnage your mood and uplift your energy. They are inexpensive, can be used anywhere in the home and even in your car or workplace. - Crystals
Crystals big and small can be used to not only protect you from negative energy but also to attract more of it. Small ones can be worm in jewelry and big ones can be placed in strategig places in your homw. - Visualization
When you visualize your own energy field or aura you can stat to dicate what you want it to be. I start my day visualizing a white light around myself – a force field that attracts only good, great and wonderful things and that repels anything else. - Forgiveness
Holding grudges and hanging on to hate and resentment can cause negative energy to cling to you. We all know how freeing it feels when you forgive and that feeling of a lod being shed proofs how you can offload the destructive energy.
Wrap Up
Dealing with negativity and depression is easier said than done, so take your time and most importantly, give your spouse time and space to figure things out.
Don’t be overly critical of his words, actions, and behavior. If you truly love your spouse, show your love and support and stay compassionate.
Remember that there’s hope as long as there’s mutual love in the relationship. I’m sure you will eventually banish negativity from your life and enjoy each other’s company again.
I’m sending positive energies your way!
