What happens when you meet your soulmate for the first time is that your highest self instantly recognizes ‘something’ in that person.
This recognition transcends space and time.
It often defies logic and reason and the connection between the two of you can almost be felt. You are on the same ‘wavelength’ (frequency) and not only can you feel but others will perceive your connection quite easily.
When you first meet a soulmate it can be a magical experience.
It really is akin to meeting an old friend. That warm feeling of familiarity – the feeling of ‘coming home’ and the sense of belonging is truly magical.
Not all the soulmates in your life come into your life that way though.
Many of them you are born into.
Some soulmates you may have known your whole life without realizing that they are actually your soulmate.
In this discussion I will focus a bit more on the idea of a soulmate as a life partner – a significant other, but that is not at all the full extent of what a soulmate really is.
- What is a Soulmate Really?
- What Does It Feel Like When You Meet Your Soulmate?
- 1. Physical Appearances Does Not Matter
- 2. A Feeling of Familiarity
- 3. Time Stands Still
- 3. A Deep Emotional And Spiritual Connection
- 4. You Feel Complete
- 5. Synchronicity Intersects Your Life Paths
- 6. Everything Feels Easy
- 7. The Urge To Share Everything
- 8. A Deep and Connected Friendship
- 9. Intimacy Is Secondary
- 10. Your Relationship Creates A Synergy
- 11. You Can Really Push Each Other’s Buttons
What is a Soulmate Really?
We’ve all been fed a lot of ideas about what a soulmate is or isn’t. The sad truth is that most of this comes from movies and modern literature.
The idea of a soulmate is not the stuff of fiction though.
The work of Doloris Cannon, Gary Zukov and especially Dr. Brian Weiss has given me some truly mind blowing insight into the nature of the soul and how souls interact in this life in these bodies that we call human beings.
This idea that your soulmate is a ‘one and only’ person who is destined to be with you as a romantic partner through life is unfortunately only a fairy tale.
It is absurd to think that you would come into this life and that somehow in the 7.6 billion people on the planet that you have to ‘find’ just one.
Talk about a needle in a haystack!
From my studies I have learned this much about soulmates:
- A soulmate is someone ( a soul) that you have known in past lives
- A soulmate can be your mom, your best friend, your child or even your boss
- Soulmates are ‘chosen’ before you come into this life to help you learn or experience certain things in this life
- Soulmates are not bound to you in this life, but they are bound to you beyond this life
- Most soulmates are not romantically involved with you in this life
- You have many soulmates in this life – most of them you only have brief encounters with
- Soulmates always have a spiritual connection that goes beyond mere physical and emotional relationships
The common reference to a soulmate as your romantic life partner is mostly based on fiction and has created the false belief that you have to somehow ‘hold off’ for that one specific person to magically show up in your life.
This idea cas caused many people to miss out on so much love and joy.
What happens when you meet your soulmate for the first time is not what most movies portray yet there is some truth to it.
There are some very powerful things that happen when you do meet in this life. Here are the 11 most common ones…
What Does It Feel Like When You Meet Your Soulmate?
1. Physical Appearances Does Not Matter
A very surprising thing that happens when you meet your soulmate for the first time is that you completely lose sight of appearances.
It is almost as if you can see past their looks and personality and peer into their soul.
Most people have an idea of what their ideal partner should look like. We all want what we believe ‘attractive’ looks like.
Yet, when you meet your soulmate all that goes out of the window pretty quickly.
When you meet your soulmate you do not even pay attention to appearances.
It’s simply not important.
The connection you feel completely overwhelms all logic and all your previous (mis)conceptions of what a soulmate should look like or be like.
In most cases your soulmate will be so different from what you always thought they ‘should look like’ that you will be utterly confused and even dumbfounded as to why you feel so attracted to this person.
Your body is just a piece of clothing for your soul.
Soulmates recognize each other at the level of the soul and disregards all appearances of the body.
When you see couples that appear to be complete ‘mismatches’ in terms of looks, language or even cultures then you know what they are often the happiest.
2. A Feeling of Familiarity
One of the most common things that happens when you meet your soulmate for the first time is that you instantly feel a sense of familiarity.
You feel like you know this person – even though you know you’ve never met them.
In a very weird way they often look familiar but you can’t quite figure out why. You know that you don’t know them yet you feel that you do.
This feeling of familiarity that happens at the highest level of your being is very powerful.
Your intuition senses that you know them and no matter how hard you try you often can not forget an encounter with this person (or soul).
Meeting a soulmate is not really a meeting.
It is a reunion.
3. Time Stands Still
We’ve all had the experience when we get so engrossed in a meeting or a conversation that we completely lose track of time.
It is as if time stands still and becomes non-local.
Hours feel like minutes.
At the spiritual level of your soul time does not exist. When you meet your soulmate for the first time you often have an experience like this.
You may spend hours together and it will feel like it was just a few minutes.
Time gets completely distorted.
3. A Deep Emotional And Spiritual Connection
When you meet your soulmate for the first time you instantly feel an emotional and spiritual connection with them.
You often laugh at the same things, feel the same way about certain things and you can sense their emotional state quite accurately.
This connection is well beyond what is considered ‘a good match’ by society’s standards.
Its not that you both like 80’s music and Yum Cha.
Your connection is well beyond all that and you are more spiritually aligned than mere habits or physical preferences.
4. You Feel Complete
I really loathe the idea that your life partner is ‘your other half’. It implies that you are incomplete and that you need someone to complete you.
A soulmate does however bring something that can allow you to become all that you can be.
I do not mean that you are incomplete by yourself.
It simply means that when a soulmate comes into your life they often trigger certain things within you that can inspire and motivate you to become what you wouldn’t have without them.
What happens when you meet your soulmate for the first time is that connection can be very intoxicating and inspiring.
It’s not so much that they give you something as it is that they awaken within you what may have been dormant previously.
If you consider the idea that you chose your soulmates before you entered this life then this makes total sense.
You have chosen these soulmates to act as companions on your life journey to help you find within yourself what you need to fully actualize yourself in this life.
5. Synchronicity Intersects Your Life Paths
Often what happens when you meet your soulmate for the first time is that you are amazed by the unlikeliness of events that brought you together.
The meeting of soulmates is almost always a synchronistic event.
It truly is as if it was destined to be.
Unfortunately the ‘unlikeliness’ of running into a soulmate if you are deliberately out there looking makes it seem almost impossible.
There’s just too many people and the chances of running into ‘your one and only soulmate’ feels too unlikely to even believe in it.
When synchronicity steps in the whole universe conspired\s to bring about your ‘reunion’.
6. Everything Feels Easy
There is this modern idea that relationships are things we have to work on and that nothing is easy.
It’s almost like we have to chisel each other to make sure we fit together.
Often when we are young we meet someone that ticks all the boxes and who should be a good match from a logical point of view.
These are the relationships that most people jump into.
What happens when you meet your soulmate for the first time is that everything is easy. There is a flow and you almost immediately gets stripped of your ego.
When the soul takes charge the ego has no rol;e to play.
Since soulmate relationships are primarily at the level of the soul the ego takes a backseat.
You no longer feel like you have to impress someone. You can be vulnerable and strip back your own self importance and the need to be important as a person.
You can comfortably drop your protective coating and allow your true self to be exposed.
You will most likely experience many of the issues that most relationships face and you may still have to ‘work on the relationship’ like other couples but your deeper connection allows you to move through things much more swiftly.
Your soulmates are those people with whom you feel completely comfortable to ‘think out loud’. You feel no need to hide anything from them.
You feel completely at ease to just be your authentic self.
The desire to portray yourself in a certain way is a strategy that your ego employs to try and gain something.
The soul cares not about appearances.
When you feel like you can be authentically yourself with anything person there are no pretenses and no lies. There are no hidden agendas and no false pretenses.
This is not because you decide to or because you work at it.
It just comes naturally.
You feel comfortable and complete at ease to share everything with them with no fear of judgement or condemnation.
8. A Deep and Connected Friendship
All soulmates have a great friendship. This does not mean that it is all moonshine and roses though.
More often than not these friendships are filled with friction and disagreement.
The depth of the friendship however is what ensures that it can go to certain extremes and not only survive but thrive.
9. Intimacy Is Secondary
Thanks to Hollywood we tend to have this image of meeting your soulmate and having this hot and heavy passionate relationship.
The truth is that this is rarely the case.
It is often what ‘worries’ many people who are in a relationship with their soulmate because they think it should be all about passion and romance.
What happens when you meet your soulmate for the first time is that there is a connection at the highest level of your being.
This spiritual connection does not always translate into a deeply passionate and romantic connection. The love between you tends to transcend all that.
This does not mean that intimacy is not important.
It’s just that it often develops slower over time since your initial connection is not sexual but spiritual and emotional.
10. Your Relationship Creates A Synergy
One of the amazing things that happens when you meet your soulmate for the first time is that it starts to create a synergy.
This synergy is an energy where the sum is greater than the total.
Being with your soulmate inspires you to give more of yourself to every area of your life.
When the two of you can do this in concert then it creates a synergy that exceeds the sum total of just two people coming together.
One great example of this is in music.
Simon and Garfunkel, Sonny and Cher and The Everly Brothers. The synergy between them made for something truly special.
Oftentimes people only reach their full potential when their soulmate is in their life.
Our soulmates inspire and uplift us and often provide the resistance we need to lift ourself to a new level of living life.
11. You Can Really Push Each Other’s Buttons
Dr. Wayne Dyer once wrote something called Your Soulmate Is The Person You Can’t Stand. This sounds a bit crazy and may sound like it contradicts most of what we think a soulmate is.
The idea behind his essay was that soulmate relationships are often very ‘intense’ because we know each other so deeply.
The ability to push each other’s buttons can only come from a very intimate relationship.
If you think of the soulmates in your life whether they be your kids, your best friend or even your life partner then you will see that they are the very people who know how to push your buttons.
So many people wrongly try and move away from these people who push their buttons.
The reality is that they are your greatest teachers.
They can help to reveal yourself to yourself.
They can show you what it is within you that trigger certain reactions and in this sense these soulmates are your greatest teachers.