When I was 22, I was obsessed with the question: how to find my soul purpose? In time I learned that it is all about re-connecting with you you really are at the highest level of your soul.
Figuring out how to find your soul purpose can be frustrating, perplexing and even mysterious for most people.
We all have a purpose in life; a calling that goes way beyond the mere formalities of life.
Liv Ullmann remarked that we all came here with ‘sealed orders’ and part of your purpose in life is to discover what your calling is.
At the highest level of who you are you know. Your higher self or your soul knows exactly what you are here for.
For most people the ego has taken over and suppressed the soul’s voice sufficiently to wrangle control over every aspect of your life.
Yet, that still small voice can never be silenced. Your soul will never ‘desert’ you because your ultimate purpose in life is your soul’s purpose.
Before you can discover your soul purpose you need to understand one important distinction about your Self…
You Don’t Have A Soul You Are A Soul
To really understand the idea of your soul purpose you need to understand one key distinction in life and that is: you don’t have a soul you are a soul and you have a body.
This incredibly powerful statement is often attributed to C.S Lewis but is actually words written by George MacDonald back in 1892.
This quote is a great anecdote to a rive misconception of spirituality. What you really are is a soul. Your body is simply a vehicle. Your mind is a mere construct to help you function in this world.
That part of you that never ages, that has been there since day one that will never die is what you ultimately are.
Coming to terms with this fact is very liberating.
It also gives us great reassurance to know that we are infinite beings having a human experience for a short span of time in the never ending continuum of eternity.
Your soul took on the body you are in and signed up for the life you are living to experience, learn and become more of itself.
You are ultimately on a mission. Your soul has lessons to learn. Things to experience.
At the highest level of life, this is your soul purpose. It is to realize and actualize the reason why your soul came into this life at this time.
The work of Dr. Brian Weiss has given me immense insight into these ideas. His revolutionary past life regression therapy has revealed thousands of cases of how people can remember past lives with vivid detail.
The idea of past lives is often seen as whoo-whoo spiritual stuff and I resisted the ideas for a long time. Only through Dr. Weiss’ work made me see the light.
If this idea is hard for you to fathom, thenI would suggest you read the ground breaking book called Many Lives, Many Masters by Dr. Brian Weiss.
Your Soul Purpose Is Your Sole Purpose
We all have a calling in life. A purpose and a main mission to accomplish. This calling can take on many forms and functions.
One of the real challenges is that as we grow up we get taught how to be a human being in this world. We get taught what we are supposed to be and what we are supposed to become.
We lose our connection with our own divinity and in the process we lose our connection to our purpose.
Your sole purpose in life is to find your purpose and then to live it. This is the real “work” you have to do in life. Everything else is secondary.
As long as you are disconnected from your purpose and your calling you will always be yearning for something else. You will never be truly fulfilled. You will never feel like your life has a deeper meaning and purpose.
I love what Roger Federer said. He said that you should find the one thing that you love and make that one thing everything.
Once you know your calling it becomes the guiding light in your life. You may still be “doing” most of what you did before but now there is a purpose to what you do.
There’s a guiding light that informs your decisions, that guides you in what to do and gives you a passion and inspiration that can not come to your when you do only what you think you ought to do.
Make finding your soul’s purpose your sole purpose. When you make it important to reconnect with your purpose it will find you.
Talent And Purpose
Many people confuse talent with purpose. They have a talent for music and then think it is their purpose to become a musician.
Having a talent for something is not your life purpose but it is often a great clue. Talents are things that come easy to you. What would be hard or impossible for another is easy and effortless for you.
Talents are vehicles that helps you find your true purpose and calling in life. If you have no idea what your purpose is then following your talents is a great start because it will eventually lead you to your purpose.
When we get stuck or blinded by confusing talent for purpose we often feel very frustrated. I see this a lot with artists and musicians who think that their talent is their purpose.
We often get ‘forced’ into positions in life where we do not use or apply ourselves fully. This is typically what an unfulfilling job brings you.
A great analogy to understand how this relates to your soul purpose is this:
You can use a pen to stor your coffee. It will do a pretty good job at that but ultimately that is not what the pen was made for. You are not using the pen for its highest purpose. Only when you use that pen to put ink to paper will you be using it to its highest function.
The same is true for us. You can employ your talents to do many tasks and most of it you will be doing pretty well with your given talents.
To “use” yourself for the highest purpose you are here for you will need to find exactly what that purpose is.
The Difference Between Your Job And Your Calling
One of the great sticking points for many people is in how theory can reconcile their purpose with career.
Your purpose is not your career. Your calling does not have to be what you do to make money and pay the bills. It could be but often it is not.
Some careers obviously have a calling. Being a pastor, a doctor, a conservationist…these are all careers that are often associated with people who have a calling.
Many people in these careers do not have a calling for it though. Your calling is often not related to an existing “career” at all.
The most immediate knee-jerk reaction is usually the fact that you think you can’t make money from what you love and what you are passionate about.
That is normal. We live in a world where most career paths are mapped out. It is often impossible to see a career path that is not on the map.
What we are seeing more and more in our modern world is how people are finding the most extraordinary ways to monetize their gifts, their passions and their purpose.
If you are always blinded by “how” you could eventually monetize your passion then you will never allow yourself to connect with it.
You need to remove that obstacle for how you can make money from it in order to truly connect with it. This does not negate the need for a job or a career.
We need money to function in the world. You need to pay your bills and make a living. This does not mean you can’t begin to pursue your true passion and calling. Even if you work really hard, your job is usually less than 50% of your time.
What are you doing with the other 50% ?
Your career is often just a stepping stone that leads you to finding your calling – especially if it has “something” that appeals to you. It might not (yet) be the whole thing but it is leading you to it.
Oftentimes a job or a career is only there to serve as a detour to tell you what you should not be doing with your time and your energy.
Regardless of which one of the two it is, it will keep you moving and exploring and is all part of the process of your calling or your purpose unfolding.
How To Discover Your Soul Purpose
Learning how to find your soul purpose is often a process. Some people “just know” from an early age. For most people it is a process of self discovery.
You may find it when you are 18. You may find it when you are 80. The important thing to realize that your intention to reconnect with your purpose IS your purpose.
I deliberately use the term ‘reconnect’ because you are not trying to discover some long lost treasure. Your purpose and your calling is already present within the highest part of yourself. You simply have to reconnect with it.
Many people think that discovering your soul purpose is like having some big epiphany. It could be but most of the time it is more a series of smaller epiphanies as you start connecting the dots.
Nothing in your life was done in vain and there is nothing to regret.
Every step along the way helps you to connect the dots and with hindsight and conscious reflection your calling will often emerge out of even the most diabolic situations.
9 Questions To Help You Discover Your Soul Purpose
Very people are born with ‘knowing’ their soul purpose. This knowing is more a remembering than a piece of knowledge you have to acquire from outside yourself.
If you have no idea what your soul purpose is then the first step is to understand that you DO have a purpose.
You are simply not aware of it. Your mind and your ego is simply in the way and prevents you from connecting to your higher self.
Living a more spiritual life will help you to drown out the incessant voice of the ego who wants to keep you to itself. This will help you to reconnect with your Self and help you connect to your soul purpose in life.
On a more practical level you also need to stop blocking yourself from discovering what your soul propose. Most people who don’t know (yet) usually have a mantra that they repeat over and over to themselves.
The mantra is: “I don’t know what my purpose is.”
Knowing how the mind works we now know that by repeating that enough your mind will respond and make sure you “don’t know what your purpose is.”
Start by replacing that mantra with this one: “Infinite intelligence now reveals to me my true purpose in life.”
The process of discovering your purpose is also part of your purpose. Here are 9 questions to help you to find your soul purpose in life.
1. What Scares You More Than Anything?
This may seem like a strange angle but oftentimes the things we fear most is what will give us the greatest sense of joy in life.
The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.– Joseph Campbell
We often avoid the very things that hold our purpose hidden because we fear it. We fear the next step we need to take. We fear the unknown and we fear our own greatness.
What are your “big fears”? What clues do they hold about your soul purpose. Is there something on the other side of your fears that holds treasure?
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others– Marianne Williamson
2. If Money Was No Issue?
If someone knocked on your door tomorrow morning and informed you that you had some long lost uncle who left you a $20 million fortune, what would you do?
I know… you will party like its 1998. You will have a massive holiday, buy a fancy car and move into your dream home.
When the dust has settled and you’ve bought all the toys, what will you be doing with your life? How will you spend your days? What will make you feel fulfilled? What will bring you joy if you did not have to worry about making money from it?
Most people are so caught up in making money from what they do that they never really get to spend their time doing things that matter.
Contemplate this idea. When you really get into it you will start finding some really interesting ideas about how you will really spend your time when money is not an issue.
3. If You Had 6 Months Left To Live?
If you were handed a diagnosis tomorrow and told that you only have 6 months left to live, what would you do with your life?
This may not be the most pleasant thing to contemplate but it does focus the mind. It helps you to look beyond all the unimportant things in life.
The trouble is that you think you have time.– Buddha
When you only have 6 months to live you will start focussing on what is most important to you in life. Undoubtedly you will focus on family and loved ones but you will also start to think about what your soul wants to still experience or do.
There are some great clues here in helping you find your soul purpose.
4. What Was Your Calling Card?
One very strange and interesting fact about human beings is that we are often completely oblivious to the most obvious things about ourselves.
If you ask the 10 people that are closest to you to describe your personality you will find that (if they are brutally honest) they will all be saying almost exactly the same thing.
This will almost always be different to what you think.
What others see in us is often much more accurate. We all have “calling cards” – things that are so obvious about ourselves that they often become what we are known for.
They often result in a nickname. I used to be called “professor” even when I was little. I seemed to always give advice.
What was your calling card? What clue does that hold about your life purpose?
5. When Did/Do You Experience Bliss?
I am not a big opera fan but I used to love watching Luciano Pavarotti’s special performances. When the camera zoomed in on his face while he was belting out an amazing song (which he probably sang a thousand times before) you can see the peace and the bliss in his face.
When you do something that is aligned with your soul purpose you will experience bliss.
Bliss is a state of mind where you experience joy to the point where everything else around you seems to fade into insignificance.
Think back at times in your life where you experienced complete bliss. These are great clues because when you were experiencing bliss you were perfectly aligned with your soul purpose.
6. What Gives You Boundless Energy
Do you feel completely drained at the end of the day? Do you make it to Friday feeling like you ran a marathon?
This is probably because you are doing something that is not in line with your purpose. When you do things that are in line with your purpose you will be energized, inspired and you can do it for hours without getting tired.
What is it that you can do for hours on end and not get tired?
What is it that gives you energy and that makes you feel alive?
You can only find your soul purpose by following that which gives you joy, makes you feel passionate and what makes you feel truly alive.
7. What Do You HAVE TO Do
What is it in your life that you keep going back to? What is constant in your life that you always revert to or dream of to give you a sense of inner peace?
A Musician Must Make Music, An Artist Must Paint, A Poet Must Write, If He Is To Be Ultimately At Peace With Himself.– Abraham Maslow
Your purpose is “built into” your being and it is something that is constant within you from the day you were born.
This “thing” that you feel you MUST do is not always directly your purpose but it often gives you some much needed clues.
8.What Did a Great Tragedy, Accident or Major Disappointment Reveal To You?
Accidents, traumas and personal tragedies are often sent along our life path to jolt us back to what is most important in life.
When these experiences come along our life path we forget about the irrelevant BS in life. What would previously dominate your life becomes insignificant.
All the small problems and issues you had got exposed for the “energy suckers” they were and you now get clarity on what is important to you.
If you’ve been through something like this, what lessons did you learn? What became evident as important to you in your life journey when you saw your life stripped of all the unimportant things?
While trauma’s, accidents and difficult times are tough to go through, they hold a great gift.
They strip your life from all the roles you are trying to fulfil with your ego and your soul gets to ‘speak’ and make its voice heard in your life.
9. What Can You Give To The World?
You will never find your soul purpose if you are looking for anything you can get from it.
Your soul purpose is never about getting anything – even self satisfaction. Your purpose will always be about giving, sharing and generosity in some shape or form.
It is always about giving away what you have inside you and sharing yourself with the world.
What you get out of finding and living your purpose is the inner fulfillment, happiness and bliss. It is never about getting “things and stuff” or accumulating awards or accolades.
Those are functions of the ego and the ego is never concerned with
Always about giving and sharing what you got. By design your purpose is never about getting
It is in giving that we receive
How To Find Your Soul Purpose – Conclusion
One of the biggest mistakes people make when trying to find their soul purpose is that they think it should be this one big thing.
Its not like that at all.
Your purpose is usually something much “smaller” and much simpler. The big and grand things we see accomplished in this world is never the result of some initial grandiose purpose.
Mother Theresa believed that her soul purpose was “to see God in every person”. With that small and simple purpose she accomplished so much.
Let go of all your preconceived ideas of the illusion that your soul purpose has to be this big grand and sexy idea. When you are aligned with your purpose great things will flow from that.
Not because your purpose is some grand idea but because when you align with your purpose the whole universe starts working with you. You truly tap into an authentic power that can not be accessed in any other way.
You and only you will know when you are aligned with your purpose. This is your true work in life.
I love what Caroline Myss said in that when you find your purpose you don’t have to betray yourself anymore.
You don’t have to compromise yourself anymore. You can live your life 100% authentic and being truly yourself.