Psychology refers to the way the mind or our character works and how it influences our behaviour. It is the basis of all personal improvement and development of the “self”. When you change and improve your mind and the way you think and feel your whole life will be transformed.
The mental and emotional state you are in on a daily basis determines the way you feel, the emotions you experience, what you will or will not do and everything that flows from that.
Contrary to popular belief, personal transformation is not a miracle that someone performs on you or do for you. It is a process of continuous and wilful action on your part on a daily basis.
A commitment to having an extraordinary psychology will guarantee you an extraordinary life. We all have the need to expand and grow as human beings. If we don’t grow then we won’t be happy.
It’s as simple as that and it all starts with an improvement in psychology and a realisation that it is you and only you who can and will do it.
80% of success in life is psychology; the ability to manage your mindset. There are two components to your psychology that once you understand and apply them can transform your life and your experience of life.
The first one is your mental focus and the second aspect is your physiology (your physical body).
For the purpose of this discussion we will stick to the way you control and use your mental focus.
Mental focus refers to the thoughts, ideas, images and conversations you hold in your mind on a daily basis. Your conscious mind can only focus on one thing at any time although there are millions of things going on around you all the time.
What’s wrong is always available, but so is what is right!
What we focus on determines what we think. What we think determines how we feel. How we feel determines our actions and our actions determine our destiny.
We all become what we think. We are what we think and we always move towards the “image” of our ideal selves. By definition an improvement in our thoughts will lead to an improvement in our lives and our destiny. But what is a thought?
The process of thinking is nothing but a process of asking and answering questions in our mind and this process, mostly, happens unconsciously. Whenever something happens to us there are two automatic questions that our subconscious minds immediately ask: what does this mean and what should I do next.
If we want to have an extraordinary psychology we need to take conscious control of this process until it is conditioned in our subconscious minds.
If we then want to have improve our psychology, we firstly need to learn the skill of asking ourselves questions that will direct our focus.
Whenever you find yourself thinking about anything that is dis-empowering and leading to emotions like anger, overwhelm, jealousy ex. you need to bring your mind and mental focus back to what’s most important by consciously asking yourself a new question.
Remember that the thoughts we dwell on will eventually manifest themselves in our lives.
Imagine, just for a second, that something happens that makes you feel angry.
Immediately your focus is on what made you angry and if you focus on it long enough your mind will come up with more references and eventually you will be feeling furious. Imagine now that someone came up to you and said: “good morning miss, can you tell me what time it is?” and immediately your mind is distracted from what caused the anger and you feel fine.
By simply asking yourself the question “what else can this mean” and by really searching for alternative and empowering answers you can immediately change your mental focus and that is one powerful way of starting your journey on improving your psychology.
By designing a series of questions for yourself you can always get out of a bad state and turn your mental focus around.
Realise that nothing in life has any meaning except for the meaning you give it and by consistently asking yourself questions like “what’s great in my life?” and “who do I love and who loves me?” you will start to consciously direct your mental focus.
By focusing on what’s great in your life everyday, you will always feel great. What’s wrong is always there, but so is what is right. Decide right now to focus on what’s right, good and beautiful in life and make controlling your mental focus a habit.
Whether something is a problem or an opportunity, good or bad, happy or sad comes down to your mental focus.